Frequently Asked Questions
last updated July 2012
These are some of the most common questions people ask me, and my summarized answers. They're in no particular order.
Several answers to that. 1. Time management is part of what I do for a living. I'm very good at managing and prioritizing, and getting the most out of my time. 2. I'm very focused. My life is concentrated on my work, my kids, my women, and travel. Nothing much else. I don't have 27 different hobbies, distractions, activities, or social commitments that consume my time. 3. While there are certain women that I care more for than others, I make sure that no one woman ever dominates my time. My life belongs to me, no one else.
On a social networking site, your initial approach should be more friendly and less flirty and sexual than on a dating site. Also, your email conversation will have to last much longer than the "two or three exchanges to the date pitch" that I recommend on dating sites. More comfort must be achieved on a social networking site than on a dating site. Once you think you’ve achieved enough comfort and rapport, then hit her up for meeting her somewhere to “hang out”. DON’T ask for her phone number. Pitch a meetup FIRST. Once she schedules something with you, then give her your phone number. Usually she will give you hers right back.
It's going to be a while. These kinds of deals take a long time to negotiate, books take a long time to publish, and of this writing (July 2012) it's only about half written. This is a very important project to me and no part of it will be rushed. As things develop I'll make updates at my blog.
80% of the ebook content is NEW STUFF I HAVE NEVER POSTED ANYWHERE. It is stuff I have purposely held back for use in the ebooks. The other 20% (or so) is information and techniques I have posted about historically, but re-edited, organized for easy reading, and updated with new information.
The ebooks are my BEST STUFF. Click here if you want more info.
Of course I will! But I won't do it for free, or else I would be doing nothing except critiquing everyone's profile who asked. Check this out here.
I plan on continuing to do a retreat once or twice a year in various major cities throughout the United States. I am working very hard on getting international retreats done as well. These are much harder to organize so this will take time. The international cities I'm currently working on are London, Berlin, Sydney, Shanghai, Singapore, Hong Kong, Dubai, Sao Paulo, and Buenos Aries. If you live in any of those cities and would like to help me arrange a retreat, email me.
Yep. But guess what? Women flake a lot in real life too. It's hard-coded in the female wiring. There are specific, heavily tested and proven techniques that can minimize this dynamic when attracting women into your life using online dating.
They certainly do, but only if you start off the relationship right, using the correct frame of mind and correct techniques, and 95% of men start relationships out in a way that makes open relationships impossible. Women only demand and expect things like fancy dinners, monogamy, and "commitment" because of men's initial behaviors. My third ebook in the Blackdragon Dating System series is entirely dedicated to this: how to have multiple, long-term "girlfriends" (really "MLTRs") without having to lie to any of them. Just like my other ebooks, it's simple, step-by-step, and easily replicable by you. If you're already married and want to do this, you'll be very interested in this ebook too.
Sure! But unless you're already on my travel agenda, you’ll have to come to me. I live in the USA, in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. If you’re planning on being in that area, let me know, and if my schedule allows (and it may not) I’ll see what I can do.
I use many spreadsheets to manage my woman-life. My online dating tracking spreadsheet I now offer as a FREE bonus when you order a copy of Improve Your Online Dating Results. The core online dating ebook, How To Fill Your Calendar With First Dates Using Online Dating goes over every single column and formula in my entire spreadsheet, in precise detail, so you can use it just like I do, to maximum effect.
About half the woman I date are 20 years younger than me or close to it. I describe exactly how to do it in this ebook right here. In general, dating much younger women is about finding the younger girls who like (or are open to dating) older guys, and positioning your age as a thing of attractive value to younger women, not as a thing to fear or be creeped out about.
Because people have been lead to believe monogamy is something it isn't. Head on over to the free ebooks section here and read my free ebook on the subject. Short term monogamy might be good for some people, and marriage is fine as long as monogamy and longevity isn't expected, but long term monogamy is not something that works in modern era; to think it does is delusional. Again, I give all the stats and facts about it here.
I finally wrote a blog post about exactly how to do it. Check it out right here.
As soon as I read a sentence like that, I already know you're probably not going to take any advice I give you. "There's this one girl" situations usually imply that you're not dating anyone else but this one girl and you're not going to do anything outside of your comfort zone because you "might lose her". There usually isn't much I can do when your mindset is so locked-down. The good news is once you're thinking clearly and rationally again, I can show you exactly how to quickly and easily get the next girl.
last updated July 2012
These are some of the most common questions people ask me, and my summarized answers. They're in no particular order.
- How do you have time to date all of these women?
Several answers to that. 1. Time management is part of what I do for a living. I'm very good at managing and prioritizing, and getting the most out of my time. 2. I'm very focused. My life is concentrated on my work, my kids, my women, and travel. Nothing much else. I don't have 27 different hobbies, distractions, activities, or social commitments that consume my time. 3. While there are certain women that I care more for than others, I make sure that no one woman ever dominates my time. My life belongs to me, no one else.
- How is approaching women on dating sites different from social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook?
On a social networking site, your initial approach should be more friendly and less flirty and sexual than on a dating site. Also, your email conversation will have to last much longer than the "two or three exchanges to the date pitch" that I recommend on dating sites. More comfort must be achieved on a social networking site than on a dating site. Once you think you’ve achieved enough comfort and rapport, then hit her up for meeting her somewhere to “hang out”. DON’T ask for her phone number. Pitch a meetup FIRST. Once she schedules something with you, then give her your phone number. Usually she will give you hers right back.
- When is your Alpha Male book going to be published?
It's going to be a while. These kinds of deals take a long time to negotiate, books take a long time to publish, and of this writing (July 2012) it's only about half written. This is a very important project to me and no part of it will be rushed. As things develop I'll make updates at my blog.
- Are your ebooks the same information you've posted on the forums or your blog, or is it new stuff?
80% of the ebook content is NEW STUFF I HAVE NEVER POSTED ANYWHERE. It is stuff I have purposely held back for use in the ebooks. The other 20% (or so) is information and techniques I have posted about historically, but re-edited, organized for easy reading, and updated with new information.
The ebooks are my BEST STUFF. Click here if you want more info.
- Will you critique my online dating profile?
Of course I will! But I won't do it for free, or else I would be doing nothing except critiquing everyone's profile who asked. Check this out here.
- Are you ever going to do a Blackdragon Retreat in <name your country or city>?
I plan on continuing to do a retreat once or twice a year in various major cities throughout the United States. I am working very hard on getting international retreats done as well. These are much harder to organize so this will take time. The international cities I'm currently working on are London, Berlin, Sydney, Shanghai, Singapore, Hong Kong, Dubai, Sao Paulo, and Buenos Aries. If you live in any of those cities and would like to help me arrange a retreat, email me.
- Online dating is tough. Women seem to flake a lot.
Yep. But guess what? Women flake a lot in real life too. It's hard-coded in the female wiring. There are specific, heavily tested and proven techniques that can minimize this dynamic when attracting women into your life using online dating.
- How are you able to date multiple women all at the same time? Women actually let you do that?
They certainly do, but only if you start off the relationship right, using the correct frame of mind and correct techniques, and 95% of men start relationships out in a way that makes open relationships impossible. Women only demand and expect things like fancy dinners, monogamy, and "commitment" because of men's initial behaviors. My third ebook in the Blackdragon Dating System series is entirely dedicated to this: how to have multiple, long-term "girlfriends" (really "MLTRs") without having to lie to any of them. Just like my other ebooks, it's simple, step-by-step, and easily replicable by you. If you're already married and want to do this, you'll be very interested in this ebook too.
- We should hang out sometime!
Sure! But unless you're already on my travel agenda, you’ll have to come to me. I live in the USA, in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. If you’re planning on being in that area, let me know, and if my schedule allows (and it may not) I’ll see what I can do.
- Will you give me a copy of that spreadsheet you use to track all of your women and your online dating?
I use many spreadsheets to manage my woman-life. My online dating tracking spreadsheet I now offer as a FREE bonus when you order a copy of Improve Your Online Dating Results. The core online dating ebook, How To Fill Your Calendar With First Dates Using Online Dating goes over every single column and formula in my entire spreadsheet, in precise detail, so you can use it just like I do, to maximum effect.
- How are you able to date women so much younger than you?
About half the woman I date are 20 years younger than me or close to it. I describe exactly how to do it in this ebook right here. In general, dating much younger women is about finding the younger girls who like (or are open to dating) older guys, and positioning your age as a thing of attractive value to younger women, not as a thing to fear or be creeped out about.
- Why is your stance against monogamy and marriage so extreme?
Because people have been lead to believe monogamy is something it isn't. Head on over to the free ebooks section here and read my free ebook on the subject. Short term monogamy might be good for some people, and marriage is fine as long as monogamy and longevity isn't expected, but long term monogamy is not something that works in modern era; to think it does is delusional. Again, I give all the stats and facts about it here.
- You use a lot of sex talk in your first and second dates to escalate to sex quickly. How to you segue into this kind of explicit sexual talk?
I finally wrote a blog post about exactly how to do it. Check it out right here.
- "I've got this situation with this one girl who I really like..."
As soon as I read a sentence like that, I already know you're probably not going to take any advice I give you. "There's this one girl" situations usually imply that you're not dating anyone else but this one girl and you're not going to do anything outside of your comfort zone because you "might lose her". There usually isn't much I can do when your mindset is so locked-down. The good news is once you're thinking clearly and rationally again, I can show you exactly how to quickly and easily get the next girl.
